Are waiters and waitresses really nice people or are they just faking it for their job?

When I go out to eat and the hosts/hostesses and servers are really polite and warm it makes me wonder if they really are that way or if they're just acting extra nice for the job. Do you think they cuss and stuff in th kitchen and aren't as nice as they seem when they aren't around the customer?

As an ex bartender waiter host cook expediter bus boy and dish washer... and having worked hospitality for 10 years mostly as a waiter/bartender... I can honestly say that the majority of my co workers were genuine nice people... It takes a certain personality type to choose a job that puts you in front of hungry people. However ... some of my co-workers were fake as a 3 dollar bill... and those were the ones that usually complained about how little they made at the end of the night. People can see through the fake. But we are all human. Sometimes we get some pretty cruel customers/guests.... sometimes a guest will assume you are being fake when you are trying your hardest and simply having a difficult night. It is very hard work and we are on our feet for around 7 hours a shift lifting heavy trays of food and other things... and around 14 hours if working a double shift which is a frequent occurrence. Every so often we get a guest who is kind patient understanding empathetic and a good tipper... and those are the guests who make it all worth it.

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Well the job is extremely stressful bc so many things are out of your control like how fast the food is prepared, or the mood of your customers. So when youre working for tips the only thing you can control is your own behavior. So yes, its pretty much an act or an exaggeration of the waiters personality. No one can be cheery all the time without faking here or there.

Ive also found that some serves are heavy into drugs and alcohol. Restaurants dont usually drug test.

I would say a little of both. For instance if you were in the waiters shoes, would you be mad. I mean as a waiter for 2 years, i have done both. If you are nice and respectful then they will like you unless the waiter is an ******, which does happen. Also other tables can make a waiter perform bad at your table. If your server just had a table with lets say 5 kids and 3 adults eat and carry on for 1hr 1/2 and leave 6 dollars. They would be pissed and ultimately affect you.

TIPS: go to a restuarant where you know someone and get to know them. Once.they get to know you, you will get better service. Period.
Same as if your beat friend worked there and you saw them.

If you are nice to me, I have no problem being nice to you. If you are a real ******, I can be pretty rude. Hey, I'm 45 and have been doing this for 20 years- NO tip is worth being treated like crap.
But before I get rude I WILL try to turn the tables & get you in a good mood, and it usually works.

And yes- we DO vent in the kitchen, and most servers will go check you out, so they'll know for next time you come in. Especially if you're a cheap tipper. But we do understand some people are just having a bad day JUST LIKE US.

some of them are probably genuinely nice, but id say that they are doing it for their job. i work with people every day, and i have to be nice. it is even in my job requirement to smile. more than half of the time when i go to break i am like omg this stupid a**hole this, or that b**** that! because i get treated so poorly, i cant retaliate or id lose my job so i share with my coworkers about all the rude customers, but i will say i am a very nice person, this is most of the reason why i hate being treated so poorly.

this is like any other question regarding how people act at their jobs. Do they like their job? Do they like people? Are they happy with their job?

The Answer is simple, this depends on the person. People act how they want to act and thats a part of life.

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It depends on the person. But there job requires them to b customer friendly and their tips r better wen they r nice.

Faking it, for the job and tips.

faking it for the tip, duh